Romantic Dinner at Your Place? You Can Handle it.
Inviting a woman into your home to be fed by you and entertained is a very intimate and romantic thing to do. The quickest way to get to know someone is to have them in your home.
This isn’t a good option for a first date because the setting is too private and your date (if she is sane) won’t want to come to your house if she doesn’t know you well. It also may lead to the bedroom (and the problem is…?), or will make your date think you expect it to lead to the bedroom, which is just not the right vibe for this soon. But for a later date, it gives you a chance to let your date know how special she is.
However, we understand that there is a great range of “presentability” to men’s homes. If yours is a 10 you may be such a perfectionist she thinks you are 1) too much of a tight-ass or 2) gay. If yours is a 0-1 meaning there are semi-empty pizza boxes on the floor or milk crates or cinder blocks posing as furniture, and you are over the age of 19, she may find you a hopelessly irresponsible lost cause. What you’re aiming for here is the 4-7 range: decent furniture that actually is usable and not sticky, no foul odors, and some semblance of cleanliness.
Our suggestion is to scope out her place to see what her general expectations are. If she lives in a palace & you live in a sh!t-hole you may want to skip this until she really likes you and your rat infested trailer that smells like vomit is not a deal breaker.
Step 1 Clean Clean Clean
The place should be clean and smell good. Remove clutter. The bathroom should have no stray hairs and should be clean. Did we mention clean?
Step 2 Imagine your house through her eyes.
Nudey posters, large bongs, and video games should not be the main focal points of your living room.
Step 3 Create Ambiance
Nice lighting, good music — soft music that you can easily talk over, comfortable places to sit, interesting conversation pieces on the coffee table that you can chat about if there is a lull in the convo. If its going to be cold have a soft throw blanket ready. Something to offer her to drink before dinner, notice what she orders when you go out: Chardoney, merlot, diet coke, snapple, whatever she likes, guess what? You have some of that, you are so in sync! Make sure you will not be interrupted by guests or too many phone calls, give her your undivided attention. If you are watching a movie later let her pick it or at least the type of movie, you may have the rest of your lives together to force her to watch B-SciFi.
Step 4 Feed her and feed her well
Make a wonderful meal that will make her feel like this is the place to be. Ok you may not be the best cook, we get that (or maybe you’re fantastic), but all men need to be able to cook at least one good meal (not pancakes). If you can’t, practice cooking something in advance and don’t invite her until you’re ready. If you don’t have your own recipes, follow a cookbook or find something on the internet and prepare something she’ll enjoy. Ask her in advance ‘do you like seafood/pasta/steak/Hungarian goulash?’ so you know her tastes and if she’s a vegetarian, allergic to shrimp, whatever. This is a simple and easy date, and depending on your culinary skills, you can make a memorable impression too.
If you REALLY can’t cook here is our suggested menu for the novice:
Desert: A homemade ice cream sundae to share
Anyone can make this dinner. Buy chicken breasts, heat olive oil in the pan set the stove top to medium and cook the chicken on both sides until it is white all the way through, melt 1/2 a chicken bullion cube in the microwave in 1/2 cup water, add chick stock to the cooking chicken. Buy instant mashed potatoes, follow instructions on box. Buy frozen green peas, follow instruction on bag. Take ice cream, hot fudge, nuts and whip cream for the home made sundae.
The sundae mentioned above is a bit of a test.
1) Is she the kind of girl that won’t allow herself the pleasure of a sundae?
2) How does she feel about sharing said sundae with YOU? If she is grossed out by the prospect of sharing your spoon don’t count on much else “sharing” going on between you in your future. ‘Thanks for the wonderful evening, wow is it that late?’
Step 5 Relax together
Enjoy this time talking quietly, if you have a view/patio/someplace romantic to sit go there. The soft music is playing, the lights are a bit dimmer now, candle light is good, maybe with a little more wine… the rest is up to you.