Are You Dating a Gold Digger?
Is she more interested in spending quality time with your wallet than with you? When you give her something sentimental that doesn’t cost much, or write her a heartfelt poem, does she give you a blank stare? Here are 8 signs that she’s more interested in your money than in you. Protect yourself before it is too late.
I’m not saying She’s a Goldigger, but… it costs a lot to keep her happy.
The gold digger’s main reason for hooking up is to gain material benefits from the ATM she’s dating. A night out with her should not always involve YOU spending lot’s of money. Staying in to watch Netflix once in a while or doing something free like walking on the beach will not make a good woman pout and leave early.
Gifts. Yes Please.
Is shopping to buy her something a prerequisite before every date? Most women would feel uncomfortable accepting an expensive gift right away and probably wouldn’t accept it – let alone ASK for it. A good woman that likes you for who you are will appreciate a small sentimental gift that doesn’t cost much but reminds you of a special time together, or a heartfelt poem. Search for signs of generosity and gratitude towards you. If she turns up her nose at a gift that is not expensive and would have preferred those Jimmy Choo heels she pointed out the day before, she’s a gold digger. The gold digger is eager for gifts that are valuable, not your love poems. Ask her what is the best gift she’s ever gotten? Gold diggers will remember an expensive item not a thoughtful gift.
Does She Ever Pay, Or Even Offer?
Has she ever even offered to pay? When the bill arrives does she reach for her purse or pretend it doesn’t exist? When you pay, does she thank you? In fairness, if you have lots more money and take her to places where the bill is equal to her rent don’t expect her to pay. If you take her to expensive places you like but she could never afford, allow her to choose a low-cost place she can afford. Or, has she ever helped you out in other ways (no, physical intimacy doesn’t count) such as cooking you dinner if you’re tired one night, running an errand for you when your schedule’s especially tight, things like that that a friend would do.
She’s Interested In YOU… Your Portfolio That Is.
“What do you do?” and “Where do you live?” can be asked in an attempt to figure your net worth. Don’t answer these questions directly, give vague answers or talk about something related to the question. A person interested in you will listen, but a gold digger will not have the patience. Gold diggers will work the room looking for the best mark, they don’t have time to listen to you drone on about your history. On the other hand, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to date someone that is financially stabile. Most people, men and women, want a partner that can take care of themselves, is responsible and isn’t wracked with financial problems. But the gold digger wants DETAILS. How much do you make a year? Do you own this house? What type of car do you drive? If she knows NOTHING about cars yet asks you this, wonder why. She’s trying to determine your overall worth and whether being with you is worth her time.
She Kicks You When You’re Down
A good woman cares about your happiness as well as her own. If you say you’re worried about losing your job she’ll feel concern for you, not start looking around for an upgrade. The gold digger may be hot and sexy, so you think you’re getting a good deal, you’re using her and maybe she’s using you. Your ego is boosted because she’s so much hotter than you are, but bear in mind that this could be the ultimate bad sign. If she is way better looking than you are, what is she hoping to gain from this relationship? But she will kick you when you’re down and most likely leave you if you lose your money. When the chips are down and you’re struggling =- and that moment comes for EVERYONE, sooner or later, even if only temporarily — that is the moment, when you need a partner most who supports you and makes you feel better, that she will dump your broke loser ass. Sorry to say it, but you know it’s true.
She Asks You for Financial Help
A gold digger will drop hints or ask you directly for help paying their bills or for a ‘loan.’ Funny, since they just bought that $700 purse. Do they buy a brand new car with luxury features when they’re struggling to pay rent? Many gold diggers know better than to ask for money for luxuries, they’ll ask for help for necessities like rent or car payments so they can spend their own money on the things they really want. When she asks you for money, suggest the possibility of her selling her luxury car, diamond earrings, or other expensive items and see how she responds. The average person may be upset, but a gold digger will be appalled they should have to give up anything in order to pay their way.
Distaste for Those with Low Status
She snubs people with low status, like the homeless or the waiter and lacks empathy, having no thoughts for the feelings and needs of others. She probably finds that you help out at the soup kitchens as a gross-out waste of time. Just for fun, tell her you’re thinking about changing your life around, downsizing and becoming a mechanic, organic farmer, writer, whatever humble job you want. Explain it will require your standard of living to go down dramatically, no more eating out, trips or shopping, but it will make you truly happy. How does she respond? A good woman will want you to be happy — she may chuckle a little & worry that you’ll starve, but she will understand your happiness is important. A gold digger will be disgusted and may even be ready to leave you depending on how serious you sound.
She Has a Strong a sense of entitlement.
Gold diggers KNOW they deserve the best and don’t question why they are above other people. This sense of entitlement makes her feel she should only associate with other high-status people, places and brands. She requires excessive admiration and will get it any way possible, sometimes the attention of one man may not be enough.